Help! I am in a toxic relationship and it’s ruining my life!!: #ASKROSHANI

Holistic Therapist & Training Provider

Roshani Shenazz, Approved Holistic Therapist & Training Provider by IPHM, UK provides guided answers

Dear Roshani,

I am in a toxic relationship since many years. I know it’s killing me yet I don’t want to leave. I know many friends who are in a similar situation.
Please guide me.

Your’s sincerely,
Devastated

Dear Devastated,

It happens with the best of the people. We cling to unserving unhealthy relationships habits and emotions way until it has eaten us up from within like termites.

Until the fear of perishing within and inside us, doesn’t get larger than the fear of losing these unhealthy things we don’t want to see it go. Only daily work to discipline our mind and tune it to self-worth, confidence, and commitment to our own soul and it’s good first can lead us out of such clamping relationships before it destroys us.

Many don’t even end up learning the very lesson why they manifested it, thus jumping from the pan to the fire in most of the cases.

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Guided answers by Roshani Shenazz, Approved Holistic Therapist & Training Provider by IPHM, UK

To heal this aspect, you can:

– Start working on the fears and insecurities by accepting and embracing them

– Occupy yourself with things that give you joy and a feeling of triumph

– Join a hobby class, indulge in activities that generate happiness and sense of fulfillment

– Stop meeting other friends who are going through the same thing, if all you do is sympathize with each other and gossip of how bad each of your relationships is.

– Meet encouraging people who can motivate you to love yourself and gain momentum on your strengths. People who can show you the truth with compassion and patience.

Then slowly move towards healing the past events that caused this clinging and insecurities.

Pray and meditate everyday
Reclaim your life using these guided answers by Roshani Shenazz

Pray and meditate daily even for a few minutes to train your mind to move towards a peaceful and safe place within.

Know that only two complete souls can complete the larger picture of their lives together. Do not try to find someone to complete you. Surely not in your sympathy state. In that bargain, it would only attract two empty vessels which end up making the most noise. Seek divine guidance and healing to heal your heart, mind, and soul out of all that created these patterns in you.

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Do not curse or abuse your relationship. Give it blessings for the lessons it had to teach you and allow it to amicably close down.

Know that it’s a karmic journey that you’ve already chosen and how well you drive through it will define your path in this journey further. Remember that many times, the best of the two people are not meant to be together besides the time of their lessons and have to draw the line to move on. That doesn’t make either of them bad even if, one has been doing any seeming bad to the other, it’s all a part of the karmic exchange. This does not mean you have to remain in the quicksand. You have to do your human best to come out of it and thus indirectly help the other too to close and nullify their karmic journey with you.

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Forgive, heal and move on. Slowly you shall finally emerge as a strong complete person ready to attract your suitable ideal partner who is another complete person. May you and each one gets the strength to move away from all such unserving attributes of life and shine your Light to help others. 🌺🙌Blessings to all.

If you have any questions about life & spirituality, please #ASKROSHANI on diaryofaninsanewriter@gmail.com or write your query in the comment section below this post.

Guided Answers by:

Roshani Shenazz

Written exclusively for: DiaryOfAnInsaneWriter

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ROSHANI SHENAZZ is an internationally renowned Spiritual Medium, Guide, Mentor, Coach, Speaker, and Author. She is an Approved Therapist and Training Provider by the IPHM (International Practitioners of Holistic Medicine) U.K. 

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© Roshani Shenazz – All the divinely guided answers, comments and the guided techniques shared in #ASKRoshani, are a part of Roshani Shenazz’s Healing and Transformational Sessions, Meditations, Books, Manual or Workshops for all times in perpetuity.

Disclaimer: We understand that the nature of this blogpost is therapeutic, however, readers are requested to use their own discretion while implementing the tips in this post. This is not a sponsored or paid post. Roshani Shenazz wrote a wonderful piece in 2016 on Angels Predictions for 2017 – it was the most read article on DiaryOfAnInsaneWriter. We believe in her authenticity.

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16 thoughts on “Help! I am in a toxic relationship and it’s ruining my life!!: #ASKROSHANI

  1. It is such a blessing to share the loving guidance with you all. Will do best to answer all / most queries. Thank you for your understanding and patience. Please share the series blogs widely to spread more love and healing into the world. You never know who shall benefit and whose blessings come your way. Stay Blessed ☀ @roshanishenazz 2019

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  2. It is such a blessing to share the loving guidance with you all. Will do best to answer all / most queries. Thank you for your understanding and patience. Please share the series blogs widely to spread more love and healing into the world. You never know who shall benefit and whose blessings come your way. Stay Blessed ☀ @roshanishenazz 2019

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    1. Dear Sanjana, the one important thing to remember in case of bullies or people who oppress in anyways, is that, they have high levels of insecurities, fear and anger within them, that they themselves are most of the times unknown to. They often are the ones who need more prayers and healing. Do not break down, or be rude or aggressive with such people as this gives the toxic energy of bullying more strength.

      At first, in your mind start detaching yourself from the irritations that the person or their behavior is causing. Which means every time something takes place, in your mind keep saying I am unaffected with XYZ’s behaviour. Keep rattling the same till you feel calmer inside of you.

      Then in your minds eye intent, daily put that person in a ball of green light, morning and night. Start projecting through the intent that the person has started backing off. Thank their soul for teaching you any valuable lesson through their behavior. Ask Angels to protect you from irritation or frustration that may be caused due to the imposing behavior. Keep doing this and slowly you will see a behavioral change in them. Once you see that, sit with them once and put your reasons forth on how the constant imposition has been disturbing you. Listen to them with love in your heart and you will start to respect some of their advice too as surely not all they say would be wrong or unimportant. Stay Blessed. ☀ @roshanishenazz 2019

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  3. If everything is a karmic journey/lesson, then what is the reason we blame people or situations involved in the same? What is the reason it is difficult to move past the hurts and the pain?

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    1. Yes everything is for a karmic reason and lessons hidden in those reasons. We carry forward these lessons every birth as per our previous Sanskaras (mental impressions) and choose the key highlights for each birth.
      But when we come down to birth each incarnation we are made to be born with divine amnesia of the karmic list of carry forwards. Because hidden in this unknowingness of the Karmic list lies our very evolution and spiritual growth of how and what we do in those very situations without calculatedly remembering what move to make. Thus how we respond or react to the situations, and whether we learn the hidden lessons or not, creates the next set of Sanskaras which in turn are creating the new karmic journey.

      Because of this divine amnesia which is very critical to our evolution, we do not remember the soul contracts done with each other for these lessons. So we react, curse, abuse, hate or create such toxic reactions and thus cannot move past the hurts and trauma. So when we react adversely to the seeming bad, or hurt given to us, we add on the baggage rather than nullify the old karma with healing and forgiving. It is to be known that it is not to pardon the act, but to forgive the souls concerned that is important in all such situations. When we go within that inner space to know that all this is for the reasons hidden as lessons (whether we know the details of those reasons or not), then we are able to surpass it with much strength even if it is not so easy most of the times. This is when prayers, meditation, affirmations and other aspects of healing and calming help us to cross the turbulent stormy periods of life. ☀ @roshanishenazz 2019

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  4. Hi
    I read your blog
    I do wonder how will praying and meditation help in this case.
    Joining a hobby class helps until the person is in the class
    What happens after the person gets back home and has to face the toxicity.
    How is this person going to deal with it then ?
    How about finding out why was this toxic relationship chosen or manifested in the first place ?
    Instead of just forgiving and moving on.
    There’s always a soul purpose /karmic cycle behind any relationship
    And until you don’t find that out the person will keep attracting the same kind of relationships in their life.
    Well that’s my personal opinion.
    Maybe your way of working is different.

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    1. Dear Kareena, Thank you for sharing your valuable insights. Below is a guided response to your queries.

      1. “I do wonder how will praying and meditation help in this case.”
      RS – Praying/Affirmations/Positive Visualizations and Meditating is a core aspect that can help us in any toxic situations as that helps us clear the fog of hurts, blames, guilt or regrets that are involved in most / all of the cases. It strengthens the inner immunity of the person to first start handling the situation and then viewing it with clarity and objectivity. Nonetheless when someone is in a toxic situation they can’t immediately do that, thus in the Guided Answer if you notice, praying and meditating is much towards the end after being guided to do earthly activities which will first begin to create some shift within the person. And gradually help the person to move towards a deeper route that will elevate them from the situation.

      2. “Joining a hobby class helps until the person is in the class What happens after the person gets back home and has to face the toxicity. How is this person going to deal with it then ?”
      RS – When clients have been asked to join a hobby class, the activity helped them tap into their inner joy, confidence, self-worth, deserving-ness and most importantly self-love and acceptance of their own self, talent or gift. As one regularly does this, the indulging energy starts to resonate with them, even after they come home. It slowly transmutes the toxins imprinted in our cellular and energy bodies. It is surely not some abracadabra and will take its time subjective to the person and the intensity of things they are going through. But it sure shot has created and will create a shift in their confidence levels, their demeanour, in their behavioral patterns, in their thinking patterns, that slowly percolate in their consciousness to change internal negative chatter and finally to stand up for themselves to handle, deal with and finally heal the toxic situation or have the courage to step out of it. I have had clients who have come out from long standing toxic relationships of 1 to 1 to 10 years and 18 and 20 years too.

      3. “How about finding out why was this toxic relationship chosen or manifested in the first place ?Instead of just forgiving and moving on. There’s always a soul purpose /karmic cycle behind any relationship. And until you don’t find that out the person will keep attracting the same kind of relationships in their life. ”
      RS – Absolutely right. As you would have read in the Guided blog, the below points exactly cater to this query.
      EXTRACT –
      “Many don’t even end up learning the very lesson why they manifested it, thus jumping from the pan to the fire in most of the cases.
      Start working on the fears and insecurities by accepting and embracing them. Then slowly move towards healing the past events that caused this clinging and insecurities.”
      It has thus been guided that many don’t learn the lessons of such relationships and thus keep jumping from one toxic relationship to another. The soul / karmic lesson is only known when the toxins of the same first start clearing, through activities that are guided which could help the person to start surfacing these lessons, relate to them, or reach someone where they be told through a divinely guided reading. Lessons cannot surface when the person is drowned in toxins of victimhood, hurt or suffering. When fears and insecurities are seen with acceptance and objectivity their charge on us starts to cease. These fears and insecurities are the outer manifestation of the soul lessons itself too, at many times. So the order of guidance tells the person how they could lead themselves to the path of clearing these toxins and coming out of a toxic relationship from earthly ways to ways connected to their inner world.

      4. Well that’s my personal opinion. Maybe your way of working is different.
      RS – No. I don’t have any “my way” of working. What is guided is shared and done for each client subjectively or for matter guided for a Universal reach like on this blog.
      Your opinions you have shared and the possible way you may be working based on that, is absolutely right Kareena and in fact matches what is guided in the blog. The only thing that the elaborated guided parts that are just shared above in this comment were not a part of the blog. And I see it as a sign that you were a wonderful instrument for it to be shared with the World. So Thank you for that. God bless you for all the wonderful work you do. Keep Shining and help others Shine through your Light.

      Love and Blessings, Roshani Shenazz

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