Roshani Shenazz, Approved Holistic Therapist & Training Provider by IPHM, UK provides guided answers
I am in a toxic relationship since many years. I know it’s killing me yet I don’t want to leave. I know many friends who are in a similar situation.
Please guide me.
It happens with the best of the people. We cling to unserving unhealthy relationships habits and emotions way until it has eaten us up from within like termites.
Until the fear of perishing within and inside us, doesn’t get larger than the fear of losing these unhealthy things we don’t want to see it go. Only daily work to discipline our mind and tune it to self-worth, confidence, and commitment to our own soul and it’s good first can lead us out of such clamping relationships before it destroys us.
Many don’t even end up learning the very lesson why they manifested it, thus jumping from the pan to the fire in most of the cases.
To heal this aspect, you can:
– Start working on the fears and insecurities by accepting and embracing them
– Occupy yourself with things that give you joy and a feeling of triumph
– Join a hobby class, indulge in activities that generate happiness and sense of fulfillment
– Stop meeting other friends who are going through the same thing, if all you do is sympathize with each other and gossip of how bad each of your relationships is.
– Meet encouraging people who can motivate you to love yourself and gain momentum on your strengths. People who can show you the truth with compassion and patience.
Then slowly move towards healing the past events that caused this clinging and insecurities.
Pray and meditate daily even for a few minutes to train your mind to move towards a peaceful and safe place within.
Know that only two complete souls can complete the larger picture of their lives together. Do not try to find someone to complete you. Surely not in your sympathy state. In that bargain, it would only attract two empty vessels which end up making the most noise. Seek divine guidance and healing to heal your heart, mind, and soul out of all that created these patterns in you.
Do not curse or abuse your relationship. Give it blessings for the lessons it had to teach you and allow it to amicably close down.
Know that it’s a karmic journey that you’ve already chosen and how well you drive through it will define your path in this journey further. Remember that many times, the best of the two people are not meant to be together besides the time of their lessons and have to draw the line to move on. That doesn’t make either of them bad even if, one has been doing any seeming bad to the other, it’s all a part of the karmic exchange. This does not mean you have to remain in the quicksand. You have to do your human best to come out of it and thus indirectly help the other too to close and nullify their karmic journey with you.
Forgive, heal and move on. Slowly you shall finally emerge as a strong complete person ready to attract your suitable ideal partner who is another complete person. May you and each one gets the strength to move away from all such unserving attributes of life and shine your Light to help others. 🌺🙌Blessings to all.
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Disclaimer: We understand that the nature of this blogpost is therapeutic, however, readers are requested to use their own discretion while implementing the tips in this post. This is not a sponsored or paid post. Roshani Shenazz wrote a wonderful piece in 2016 on Angels Predictions for 2017 – it was the most read article on DiaryOfAnInsaneWriter. We believe in her authenticity.